The Fruits Of Labor Coaching and Professional Development Firm

 "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks about changing themselves." ~John Randolph

How did you get started in this line of work?
I started listening to Norman Vincent Peale when I was about 5.  I believed even then that the Power of Positive Thinking makes a difference in how people view situations. I feel strongly that we came to the earth on time and on purpose.  I want each person to develop belief systems that empower them. I have committed my life to helping others recognize their personal power.

Who can benefit from working with The Fruits of Labor?
Anyone who wants to cultivate the fruits from within themselves to empower success. Our certified experienced facilitators advise clients and equip them with the skills needed to outclass the competition. We provide informative, interactive and formal programs designed for today's professionals, executives, students and young adults.

We specialize in customized Professional Development Training and Coaching Services including but not limited to:

  • Attitude Competency Building
  • Corporate Training
  • Diversity Performance Consulting & Coaching
  • Human Performance Consulting & Coaching
  • Interactive Seminars
  • Group Workshops
  • Private Tutorials
  • Lectures
  • NLP, Hypnotherapy & Time Line Therapy TM Technique
  • Teleclasses
  • Group Coaching

We empower individuals and teams to understand more about themselves and how to better relate to other people.

We challenge people to cultivate their fruits from within and get out of their own way to reach extraordinary goals. 


We work with any person that wants to improve and who recognizes that looking inside is the first step in any process!

What is NLP?

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a behavioral technology, which simply means that it is a set of guiding principles, attitudes, and techniques about real-life behavior, and not a removed, scientific theorem. It allows you to change, adopt or eliminate behaviors, as you desire, and gives you the ability to choose your mental, emotional, and physical states of well- being. With NLP, you learn how to grow from every single life experience, thus increasing your ability to create a better quality of life. NLP is a very pragmatic technology based on an ability to produce your desired results, thus allowing you to become proficient at creating your future!

"NLP cannot be dismissed as just another hustle. Its theoretical underpinnings represent an ambitious attempt to codify and synthesize the insights of linguistics, body language, and the study of communication systems." -- Psychology Today

"(NLP) does offer the potential for making changes without the usual agony that accompanies these phenomena. . . Thus it affords the opportunity to gain flexibility, creativity, and greater freedom of action than most of us now know. . ." -- Training and Development Journal

". . . real estate brokers and salespeople use Neuro-Linguistics to enhance their communication skills and provide them with more choices when working in a difficult situation. . . it shows how we make sense of the world around us and communicate." -- Real Estate Today

 

WHAT IS NLP: A MODEL OF COMMUNICATION AND PERSONALITY

 Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) began as a model of how we communicate to ourselves and others which was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. This model explains how we process the information that comes into us from the outside. The belief is that "The map is not the territory." And so the internal representations that we make about an outside event are not necessarily the event itself.

Typically, what happens is that there is an external event and we run that event through our internal processing. We make an Internal Representation (I/R) of that event. That I/R of the event combines with a physiology and creates a state. "State" refers to the internal emotional state of the individual -- a happy state, a sad state, a motivated state, and so on. Our I/R includes our internal pictures, sounds and dialogue, and our feelings (for example, whether we feel motivated, challenged, pleased, excited, and so on). A given state is the result of the combination of an internal representation and a physiology. So what happens is that an event comes in through our sensory input channels which are:

Visual

Including the sights we see or the way someone looks at us;

Auditory

Including sounds, the words we hear and the way that people say those words to us (unless you specifically want variety in form);

Kinesthetic

Or external feelings which include the touch of someone or something, the pressure, and texture;

Olfactory

Which is smell; and

Gustatory

Which is taste.

The external event comes in through out sensory input channels and it is filtered -- we process the event. As we process the event, we delete, distort, and generalize the information that comes in, according to any number of several elements that filter our perception.

Deletion:

Deletion occurs when we selectively pay attention to certain aspects of our experience and not others. We then overlook or omit others. Without deletion, we would be faced with much too much information to handle with our conscious mind.

 

Distortion:

Distortion occurs when we make shifts in our experience of sensory data by making misrepresentations of reality. In Eastern philosophy there is a well-known story of distortion in the rope versus snake analogy. A man walking along the road sees what he believes to be a snake and yells "SNAKE." However, upon arriving at that place he is relieved as he discovers that what he sees is really only a piece of rope.

Distortion also helps us in the process of motivating ourselves. The process of motivation occurs when we actually distort the material that has come into us that has been changed by one of our filtering systems.

Generalization:

The third process is generalization, where we draw global conclusions based on one or two experiences. At its best, generalization is one of the ways that we learn, by taking the information we have and drawing broad conclusions about the meaning of the effect of those conclusions.

Normally, the conscious mind can only handle 7 (plus or minus 2) items of information at any given time. Of course, many people can't even handle this number, and I know people who are a "1 (Plus or minus 2)." How about you? Try this: Can you name more than 7 products in a given product category, say cigarettes? Most people will be able to name 2, maybe 3 products in a category of low interest and usually no more than 9 in a category of high interest. There is a reason for this. If we didn't actively delete information all the time, we'd end up with much too much information coming in. In fact, you may have even heard that psychologists say that if we were simultaneously aware of all of the sensory information that was coming in, we'd go crazy. That's why we filter the information.

So, the question is, when two people have the same stimulus, why don't they have the same response? The answer is, because we delete, distort, and generalize the information from the outside.

We delete, distort and generalize the information that comes in from our senses based on one of five filters. The filters are, Meta Programs, belief systems, values, decisions, and memories.

Meta-Programs:

The first of these filters is Meta Programs. Knowing someone's Meta Programs can actually help you clearly and closely predict people's states, and therefore predict their actions. One important point about Meta Programs: they are not good or bad, they are just the way someone handles information.

 

Values:

The next filter is values. They are essentially an evaluation filter. They are how we decide whether our actions are good or bad, or right or wrong. And they are how we decide about how we feel about our actions. Values are arranged in a hierarchy with the most important one typically being at the top and lesser ones below that. We all have different models of world (an internal model about the world), and our values are the result of our model of the world. When we communicate with ourselves or someone else, if our model of the world conflicts with our values or their values, then there's going to be a conflict. Richard Bandler says, "Values are those things we don't live up to."

Values are what people typically move toward or away from (see Meta Programs). They are our attractions or repulsion's in life. They are essentially a deep, unconscious belief system about what's important and what's good or bad to us. Values change with context too. That is, you probably have certain values about what you want in a relationship and what you want in business. Your values about what you want in one and in the other may be quite different. And actually, if they're not, it's possible that you may have trouble with both. Since values are context related, they may also be state related, although values are definitely less related to state than are beliefs.

Beliefs:

The next filter is beliefs. Beliefs are generalizations about how the world is. One of the important elements in modeling is to find a person's beliefs about the particular behavior we are trying to model. Richard Bandler says "Beliefs are those things we can't get around." Beliefs are the presuppositions that we have about the way the world is that either create or deny personal power to us. So, beliefs are essentially our on/off switch for our ability to do anything in the world. In the process of working with someone's beliefs, it's important to elicit or find out what beliefs they have that cause them to do what they do. We also want to find out the disabling beliefs, the ones that do not allow them to do what they want to do.

Memories:

The fourth element is our memories. In fact, some psychologists believe that as we get older, our reactions in the present are reactions to gestalts (collections of memories which are organized in a certain way) of past memories, and that the present plays a very small part in our behavior.

Decisions:

The fifth element, and related to memories, is decisions that we've made in the past. Decisions may create beliefs, or may just affect our perceptions through time. The problem with many decisions is that they were made either unconsciously or at a very early age, and are forgotten.

These filters will determine our internal representation of an event that is occurring right now. It is our internal representation that puts us in a certain state, and creates a certain physiology. The state in which we find ourselves, will determine our behavior.

Remember that in this model the map, the I/R, is not the territory. Our every experience is something that we literally makeup inside our heads. We do not experience reality directly, since we are always deleting, distorting, and generalizing. Essentially, what we do experience is our experience of the territory and not the territory itself.

As early as the late 60's and early 70's communication studies indicated that nonverbal behavior played an important role in communication: (Mehrabian, A and R. Ferris (1967), 'Inference of attitudes from non-verbal communication in two channels', The Journal of Counselling Psychology, 31, pp 248-52; Argyle, M, F. Alkema and R. Gilmour (1970), 'The communication of friendly and hostile attitudes by verbal and non-verbal signals', European Journal of Social Psychology, 1, pp 385-402; Birdwhistle, R (1970), 'Kinesics and Context', Philadelphia:University of Pennsylvania).

Researchers determined that just 7% of what we communicate is the result of the words that we say, or the content of our communication. 38% of our communication to others is a result of our verbal behavior, which includes tone of voice, timbre, tempo, and volume. 55% of our communication to others is a result of our nonverbal communication, our body posture, breathing, skin color and our movement. The match between our verbal and non-verbal communication indicates the level of congruency.

  

HOW DO YOU ACCESS POSITIVE STATES?

Based on the information so far, we are ready now, to discover how to put people into state. Actually, if you did the rapport exercise, you already know how to put people into state. The process of going into rapport with someone does indeed put them into. In fact, if you're pacing and leading the person, just your going into a state will put them into that state. (Remember, a state is made up of an I/R. and a physiology.)

So the first step in putting people into state is to establish rapport. The second step is to put yourself into the state you want to establish in them.

The next step is to say, "Can you remember a time when you were?.. (the state you want them to access)." For example, "Can you remember a time when you made a decision easily and quickly, when you were totally decisive?.. (for decisiveness)." Or, "can you recall a time when you purchased something that you were very happy with?.. (for buying state)."

What will happen is that people will literally go inside and do a search of their memory to discover that particular time. If you have them do enough of that (such as happy buying state), they will connect (or link) you to that state.

The question may come up, what if they're resistant, or ask you, "Why are you asking me this stuff?" I had that happen once when I was signing up a new client. And I was asking him to recall all sorts of outrageous stuff. He said, "I can't believe I'm sitting here answering all your crazy questions!" I said, "I know! I can't believe it either! Why are you doing that?" He answered, "You know, I just feel like I'm very close to you." Bandler and Grinder say, "There are no resistant patients, only resistant therapists." So before you ask outrageous questions, establish rapport. Then you can do anything, and they'll forgive you.

One more thing you can do in advance is to set the frame about what you're going to do. Here are some nice frames to put around the process of putting someone into state:

"As we sit here talking about your business, I'm beginning to wonder if it would be appropriate to ask you now, to recall a time..."

"That reminds me, can you remember a time when you were totally decisive, now..."

"You know, I was wondering, can you recall a time when you made a business decision that was a big win for you, and made you lots of money?"

"And as I ask you so many questions, you may wonder what it would be like to be a client, and as you wonder, if you could just imagine being a client now, you'd probably find that it would be easier to make the right decision..."

"Your telling me about your business reminds me of a time when I (pause), well gee, I wonder if you can recall a time when you totally were satisfied with a purchase you just made."

And they'll oblige you by going right into that state.

Remember that a state is made up of an internal representation and a physiology. So, your asking them to make an internal representation of a time when they were (for example) satisfied with something puts them right back into that state. And when you have access to a state, what you want to do then is to anchor it.

What is Human Capital?

The word human capital has evolved over time from personnel to human resources to human capital.  The thrust behind this evolution stems from employees are being viewed as critical “assets” and investments to be grown rather than resources to be managed.   The Fruits of Labor believes that employees properly managed and motivated, can add significant value to an organization and can be invaluable in helping it sustain its competitiveness over time.

 

What are some challenges associated with Human Capital?

Typically, 60 percent of the operating costs to run a business are tied to its people asset.  And yet as targets and producers of change, people so often are regarded as “soft,” unmeasureable and unpredictable.  At The Fruits of Labor, we have a different view, our experience tells us that we can improve significantly the return on investments in “human capital” by targeting and changing the critical variables that influence their ability to meet specific business goals and performance targets.  These variables are unique within each client organization and can be wide-ranging (for example, leadership development, communication, diversity, and/or business etiquette).   Whatever the variables, The Fruits of Labor takes a collaborative approach to achieve measurable human capital improvements. 

I have a problem with thinking negatively. Do you know any simple techniques that could help me with this problem?

First of all, there are no quick fixes in life at all! Everything you do is a process that will take time to improve. Learning to value and understand your self takes time --especially if you have felt this way for a long period of time. It might take half as long to heal completely. Here are some suggestions of things you might want to consider that will start you on your journey to self healing.

Daily affirmations are very good for training your mind to think positively. The more positive thoughts you put into your mind the more likely it will generate and maintain positive thoughts. Norman Vincent Peale, a noted motivational speaker says "that anytime you think of a negative thought you should IMMEDIATELY counter it with a positive thought." I suggest you think about your favorite vacation spot, or dream vacation spot; try thinking about your favorite food or your favorite scene in a movie. These thoughts will immediately increase the endorphins to your body.

On a similar vein, my favorite technique is one I thought about once this computer security revolution started. I found myself always having to log into a computer. Since I have always believed in thinking positively, I thought that "Password Boosters™" would be a neat way to get past the security and reinforce self-love. I typically create passwords that say things like:

  • Success
  • Prosperity
  • Abundance
  • Growth


We are typically asked for a password at least 3 times a day. That is 3 times that you have to confirm your love for yourself.
We hope that helps. Feel free to call and set up a time to speak with me if you need further assistance.

Can you suggest some books that I can read to help me understand more about actualizing my own potential?

Reading is a great way to understand more about your self. These are a few books that we really enjoyed and gave me a lot of benefits:

  • Empowering Yourself -Harvey J. Coleman
  • How to Get What You Want - Zig Ziglar
  • In the Spirit - Susan Taylor
  • One Day My Soul Just Opened Up -Iyanla Vanzant
  • Power Etiquette- What You Don't Know Can Kill Your Career - Casperson
  • The Magic of Thinking Big - David Schwartz
  • Seven Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey
  • Single, Married, Separated & Life After Divorce - Myles Munroe
  • Something More: Excavating Your Authentic Self -Sarah Breathnach
  • The Power of Positive Thinking- Norman Vincent Peale
  • There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem - Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
  • What Makes the Great Great - Dennis P. Kimbro, Ph.D.
  • Who Moved My Cheese? - Spencer Johnson
  • Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want -Barbara Sher

What is  hypnosis about?

Whitfield tries hypnosis to improve performance

By MATT WINKELJOHN
Atlanta Journal-Constitution Staff Writer

Flowery Branch -- Bob Whitfield has had with his disappointing season with the Falcons. The veteran offensive lineman has decided to tackle the problem with hypnosis.

Wednesday, the Falcons' left tackle underwent hypnosis with the goal of playing better, adding a chapter to his personal scrapbook of eccentricities.

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Bob Whitfield has visited a Buckhead hypnotist in an attempt to improve his on-field performance.
 

The 12-year veteran was uncommonly candid after last Sunday's 39-26 loss to the Minnesota Vikings, admitting that has been playing poorly. But even for Whitfield -- an ecletic personality who's known to ramble about anything from football to global politics -- two sessions with a Buckhead hypnotist were unusual.

"Basically, Bob wanted to improve his on-field performance. Specifically, his focus -- his mind would wander a little bit on the field," said Dr. Wesley Anderson of Hypnosis Works. "We were using [trigger] words like 'natural.' It's natural to hit people real hard. And a couple of other words like 'set' because he gets down in his set."

Whitfield's second session was broadcast live, during his, "What up, Bob?" show on Z-93, the Falcons' flagship radio station.

"It was real," Whitfield said Thursday. "It's all a way to help you focus. It wasn't like a funny little thing where you're asleep."

Some fans might have been inclined recently to suggest that Whitfield's been slumbering. After committing two holding penalties against Minnesota (he has four in the past three games), one of which resulted in a safety, and getting run over on another play that resulted in a sack, Whitfield sat for a long time in the locker room, still in his uniform.

"I'm just not getting the job done," he said after Sunday's loss.

So on Wednesday, he visited Anderson's office, where the hynotherapist gathered background on Whitfield to get ideas about what techniques might best suit him. Then, Wednesday evening, Anderson hypnotized Whitfield on the air.

This didn't have anything to do with waving a stopwatch in front of Whitfield. There are different methods of hypnosis. Anderson basically talked his client into a state of deepened relaxation.

"You ask them if they want to go under. They say yes," Anderson said. "I say, 'Close your eyes, and imagine a wave of relaxation from the top of your head all over body. Imagine your eyelids are so heavy it's impossible to open them.' When they've tested that, you go through a deepening technique. . . to get as deeply physically relaxed as you can get."

The 6-foot-5, 310-pound Whitfield will get a test soon. On Monday night he goes up against the St. Louis Rams' Grant Wistrom, who has had 24.5 sacks since 2001.

Whitfield had another request for Anderson, too. "I asked if he could do something about all these chocolate chip cookies," the big guy said. "I keep eating them."

 

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